Brighten Your Holidays -- and Others'

Most of us have times when life feels overwhelming, and the holidays can create added stress. Research has shown that our brains are actually wired to remember negative thoughts over positive ones. But there is new evidence that we can do our own rewiring. One of the most effective ways to do this is to keep a gratitude journal.

It’s simple. Before you go to sleep, just think back on your day and find three things you are grateful for. They can be as basic as seeing a beautiful snowfall, enjoying a quiet moment with a book, or a conversation with a friend or loved one. Look for things that are specific to that day rather than general items like a friendship or a pet. Then jot them down.

When I ask my clients to do this, I encourage them to keep it going for 30 days. That’s because it takes about 30 days to create a habit, and you are creating a new mental habit. Those who try it report that it not only helps them relax and sleep better, but it also changes the way they view their lives. Here’s more from leading researcher Robert Emmons on how and why it works.

This is also a time of year when many people struggle with chronic illness, grief, and loneliness. It can make a tremendous difference to know that someone is thinking of them, even if you are not a close friend or relative. You may never know how much your simple phone call or note can lift a person’s spirits. But one thing is guaranteed: it will surely lift yours.

Happy holidays.